Bovine Stare: More on Marriage: "One of the concepts some of my straight friends have the most difficulty accepting is that gays and their relationships are not defined by sexual activity. They think of us as misbehaving heterosexuals -- men or women who have the same basic capacity for straight sex and relationships but who pervertedly choose to play around with each other rather than the opposite sex. "
B brings up an interesting point in the question of how it seems many misunderstand homosexuals. We are not twisted heterosexuals. We are different. But the difference cannot be understood by starting with sameness and extrapolating. You have to start with the difference and then you will see much that is the same.